I am AJ Jakubowska - family law lawyer and mediator. I am also human - I understand what can happen when relationships end. Lots of uncertainty, many different emotions, lots of questions. Sometimes it can feel virtually impossible to stay sane. Pressure. Concern. Cost.

This podcast features my comments on various topics related to separation, and my interviews with other humans who help when relationships end – people who look after legal issues, who mediate, who look after hearts and minds, as well as finances. People who could help you plan your future. What you will hear is NOT legal advice. These are dialogues primarily about the human aspect of separation. We try to stay away from legal lingo. It’s humans talking to humans.

I hope that something you hear will help you navigate your way to a sane split.

NEW EPISODES EVERY TWO WEEKS

Separation and Self-Care

Self-care - the ability to name how you feel, and to address it including by identifying your personal emotional and psychological needs, is a key to a sane split. The supply of gas in the tank of your car is not infinite. Neither are your own energies, no matter how invincible you may feel or want to project to the world. Self-care is essential - it’s not selfish, self-centered, it’s none of those things. It means recharging your battery from time to time, to be able to press on and to make reasonable, reasoned decisions - balanced, wise and strategic.

My email: aj@jakubowska.ca